Here’s what the 21-year-old singer and YouTube star had to share:
On coming out to his father: One day in 2010 my dad and I were talking about religion; I asked him what he would change about Judaism. Seeing I had something to share, he said he didn’t like the way our religion treats gay people. Then he asked, ‘What about you?’ That was my moment. I said, ‘That’s my issue too,’ and then after a very, very, very long pause, I said, ‘because I’m gay.’ I’ll never forget the look on his face—it was something short of shock. We both felt the weight of that moment, how pivotal it was for me. And then he immediately went into protection mode: ‘Things aren’t going to be easy. Just be yourself and be proud of who you are.’”
On rising above hatred: There was a website dedicated to answering the question “Is Troye Sivan gay?” It compiled evidence—photos, quotes I’d said, GIFs of me—and they came to the conclusion that, yes, I was. When I was closeted, the fact that this page existed was the most terrifying thing in the world. But once I came out, it became “Can you believe this page?” and I could laugh about it. I was able to take the power back. Once I owned it, the support-to-hate ratio leaned so insanely toward the positive that I didn’t care about the negative anymore.
On helping others come out: “Recently I helped a fan come out as bisexual to her mom during one of my shows. She’d been waving this note at me, so halfway through my act I took it. It said, ‘My name is Kelly and I’m bisexual. My mom’s in the crowd. Please read this aloud.’ I did, and the crowd went nuts screaming and cheering. I feel a crazy sense of pride for creating that environment at my shows. Boys wear makeup and hold pride flags. Everyone needs a haven to be whoever they want.”
For more on Troye, head to Glamour.com.